How do you talk about money with your spouse?

couple_argueIn conversations about money how many times do you hear or express the same words over and over?

There is a difference between expressing ourselves and using words to try to control others.

Productive conversations around money happen when both partners are heard. In situation where you do not feel heard and understood or feel nagged you should probably take a look at yourself and ask if you are listening openly seeking to understand and find solutions.

If you mention something that is on your mind and then let it go, no matter what response you get, you are speaking sincerely.

If you repeatedly make similar suggestions or ask prodding questions again and again you are probably trying to control.

If you are satisfied only when the other person responds in a way consider desireable,- agrees with what you’ve said or takes your advice- then you are might be trying to control.

Seeking change and correction is a great thing. Honoring others in their choices creates harmony.

Money can be a difficult conversation when you are sure you are right or there is only one way of doing things.

Open yourself up to possibilities, seek to understand and speak honestly but kindly and listen.